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Does TROUBLE come in threes?

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I  quickly want to touch base with you, since things are crazy here at the moment. I needed to tell y’all that I haven’t lost interest in you, or my own blog, I’m just not getting around to reading everything and responding to it. I try, believe me, but I’m not even close to being successful. Apart from a generally busy week, here’s how the past couple of days have played out…

I received a phone call from the lady that looks after my house in Hartbeespoort yesterday morning, to tell me that the stacking/folding/sliding door in the lounge is damaged and hanging open. It seems that it was an attempted robbery. I had to drop everything I was busy with at that moment, and rush to my house  (160km away) to try and repair and make safe. The perpetrators (I had to fight very hard with myself not to use all the little signs on my keyboard before this word…) used a screwdriver to gouge out chunks of wood to try and get to the lock. When they couldn’t quite get there, they somehow forced the one door open, which cracked the wood. Now I have to replace 2 of the 5 panels in the door, and it has to happen very quickly, because I want to go home. And I’ve got guests staying in the house this weekend. And I’ve got tenants moving in next week.

After a full day of trying to arrange several things to happen in two days’ time (this involved driving around, making a gazillion phone calls and lots of waiting for people to get back to me), I wanted to drive to my friends’ house where I was going to sleep over, and … my car wouldn’t start!!!!! There were no warning signs at all. It just died. Non responsive. Ignoring all my attempts at cajoling it back to life.


Fortunately I’ve got awesome friends, so Dale came to fetch me, and early this morning she took me back to my car, we jump-started it, and I took myself off to buy a new battery. I nearly died of shock when I heard the price, but what could I do? Except pay up, and shut up! Now I’m waiting for the cost of replacing the doors, which I’m sure is not going to be a teeny, tiny amount either.

I’m not sure it’s going to all be done today, which means staying over another night. But the positive side of this is spending more time with my friend(s), and more time away from my SO, which might make him miss me (more?)…

And I’m waiting for the third ‘thing’ to happen. Because these things always come in threes don’t they?

Or does that make me superstitious…?   😉



Janus, aka Zelmare, or mom…

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I feel a bit like Janus today. As you probably know, he is the Roman god with two faces, looking both to the past and the future. My duality has more to do with feeling both very proud and pleased, and at the same time very sad and heartbroken.

I’m not sure how much I can say, since I don’t want to spoil things for my child – it is all to do with her, so in respect to her and her right to tell her own story, I’ll talk only about my side of this story.

All the parents out there know how much we want everything to go well for our children. We want them to be only happy, and we don’t want them to ever get hurt. Etcetera. You know what I mean.

So, when things go very well and turn out the way they want them to, we should be delighted and happy, not so? Absolutely. And I am, very much so, believe me! 🙂 See that smile?

At the same time, I’m so very, very sad… And I am sorry, but I cannot help it. So please bear with me, because this sadness is not going to go away quickly. I’ll try hard for it not to keep showing up in my posts…

I thought this picture really is a metaphor for how we as parents feel about our kids. It is the first picture I post that has not been taken by me, and I don’t know who to credit for it, but whoever you are sir/madam, this is beautiful!!! Some of you might have seen it, as it has been doing the rounds in an e-mail.



Thank you for visiting, and until we chat again, be blessed. 🙂



Friday, the 13th

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‘Luck has a peculiar habit of favoring those who don’t depend on it.’  ~Author Unknown

Good luck, bad luck, no luck – whatever! Some people believe in things like a rabbit’s foot for good luck (how lucky was the rabbit?), they believe that Fri. the 13th is a day of bad luck, and so on, and so forth – you know all the beliefs about luck. But is there really such a thing?

I don’t know. What I do know is that the harder one works, the luckier you get. And that no date on any day, can by itself be bad luck. Imagine if that was the truth? How chaotic would a day like Fri. the 13th be? Because then everybody on the face of this planet would be having ‘bad luck’ on the same day!!! Crrrrrazy! It would take the earth weeks to recover.

I also believe that how a person acts and reacts, could have a lot to do with ‘luck’. How you use your opportunities, can create ‘luck’. Your attitude – positive or negative – can create ‘luck’.

           For those who do believe in the bad luck of this day, here are some pretty purple flowers to brighten your day!

Purple Power! A shrub in my garden in Hartbeespoort.

So, on this cool autumn day, this beautiful Friday the 13th, I wish you a wonderful weekend!

Until we chat again, may your days be filled with lots and lots of ‘good luck’!  🙂

Eyes wide shut (with apologies to Tom & Nicole)

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(I’m shaking my head here, and I’ve got a wry smile on my face – just to fill you in on the details!)

My goodness, it has a way of turning around and biting you in the backside! 🙂

I’ve had a very quiet Easter weekend, with my son visiting us for a change. It was good, just the way I prefer to spend my Easter weekends. Up until yesterday evening…

Late in the evening, my significant other (from here on in called my SO) received a phone call, and – chaos!!! His son had (caused) been in an accident and all 4 people involved were hurt. Fortunately, nobody was hurt seriously –  it was a broken rib here, a bruised sternum there, a possible concussion and other bumps and bruises. But, the fact of the matter is that the boy caused considerable damage to 2 vehicles (write-offs), chaos in people’s lives, and we won’t even talk about the medical and other expenses incurred.  With very little or no remorse from his side…

We all make hundreds of choices every day. This cereal or that one, coffee or tea, blue shirt or white, buy a car or wait, fire an employee or give him another chance…on and on and on. And we all know that the saying goes “if you make your bed you must lie in it.”

Some decisions are way more important than others, and take a huge amount of consideration before you reach that final decision.  None more so than the choice of a life partner, and especially if you’ve been through a marriage/relationship that didn’t work out. You then tend to look at every little detail and weigh it up and look again and measure it against this and that and you make lists in your head of pro’s and cons and you try and see into the future – maybe you can see what is going to happen in a month’s time, or a year, just to try and get some kind of reassurance that things will work out.

Of course, by now we all know that that is a fairy tale – no assurances or guarantees are given for relationships of any kind. If you love someone enough, and you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her, you have to make a leap of faith. After all the thinking and weighing of every tiny detail, you think you know what you’re getting yourself into and that you’ve got a good idea of what your new life is going to be like, and you close your eyes – and you LEAP!!!!!

There you are, in your new life, happily drifting in space, hoping that you are going to land in a very soft place, or that should you need it, your parachute is safely strapped to your back and ready to use (oh geez, did I remember to grab my parachute before I jumped?) so you can make a safe landing, even if it is a bumpy one.

And then a sudden gust of wind blows you off course. It shakes you around like a rag doll. Oh-oh… Or there are sudden lightning in the air. What happened, I never saw the storm brewing?

OK, enough of the metaphors! Sh@# happens. And you have to deal with it. Even if you feel that you ‘didn’t sign up for this.’ Surprise, surprise…you did!!!!!

When you decided to make that leap, when you decided to make the commitment, you ‘signed up for it.’ As much as you want to make it go away, or as much as you want to ignore the problem, you have to deal with it as best you can.

For better or for worse.


It must be laughing it’s head off at us silly people…  😀

Hey, who erased the rainbow?

Getting around to Easter

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Good afternoon friends!

I haven’t had a lot of time to chat with you lately, but I wanted to wish you all a belated but Blessed Easter. Hope you have time to reflect on the true meaning of this time.

Reflections. May the Light shine on you. 🙂


Thank you for your visit! 🙂

For the love of trees

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It is a cool, perfect Monday morning, and after a good weekend, I’m full of positive energy. 🙂

I’ve thought about this post for a while, and I’ve decided that it is time to do it  now. I’ll probably do another similar one in future, as I cannot stop taking pictures of…YES, you’ve guessed it – TREES!!!! 🙂 Dead trees to be more precise. I’m not going to say very much, as the pictures are just what they are – a series of dead trees.

I am fascinated by the shapes  of dead trees, they way they sometimes seem to reach for something unattainable. Life, perhaps?

I hope you don’t find the idea of a bunch of dead trees morbid, but I don’t. I think of it as a tribute to these once beautiful pieces of nature, that are so essential to our well-being on this planet. And even after they’ve stopped making oxygen for us to breathe, after their beauty has supposedly gone, I still find them mesmerizing.

One of a few tree pictures I took on my therapy hike last week.

Middle earth...

This picture was taken 2 years ago, on a trip to a place called Magoebaskloof. It is a beautiful area in the mountains, and there are often a dense mist hanging around, as was the case for most of the weekend we spent there.

Drowned perhaps?

Another one taken on my hike, different tree, different silhouette.

Even in this tiny little Eden, the dead tree does not seem out of place.


Oh, and as you can see, the clouds featured as well! 🙂


“The trees are whispering to me, reminding me of my roots, and my reach… shhhhhh… can you hear them?  Selflessly sharing their subtle song.”  ~Jeb Dickerson