(I’m shaking my head here, and I’ve got a wry smile on my face – just to fill you in on the details!)
My goodness, it has a way of turning around and biting you in the backside! 🙂
I’ve had a very quiet Easter weekend, with my son visiting us for a change. It was good, just the way I prefer to spend my Easter weekends. Up until yesterday evening…
Late in the evening, my significant other (from here on in called my SO) received a phone call, and – chaos!!! His son had (caused) been in an accident and all 4 people involved were hurt. Fortunately, nobody was hurt seriously – it was a broken rib here, a bruised sternum there, a possible concussion and other bumps and bruises. But, the fact of the matter is that the boy caused considerable damage to 2 vehicles (write-offs), chaos in people’s lives, and we won’t even talk about the medical and other expenses incurred. With very little or no remorse from his side…
We all make hundreds of choices every day. This cereal or that one, coffee or tea, blue shirt or white, buy a car or wait, fire an employee or give him another chance…on and on and on. And we all know that the saying goes “if you make your bed you must lie in it.”
Some decisions are way more important than others, and take a huge amount of consideration before you reach that final decision. None more so than the choice of a life partner, and especially if you’ve been through a marriage/relationship that didn’t work out. You then tend to look at every little detail and weigh it up and look again and measure it against this and that and you make lists in your head of pro’s and cons and you try and see into the future – maybe you can see what is going to happen in a month’s time, or a year, just to try and get some kind of reassurance that things will work out.
Of course, by now we all know that that is a fairy tale – no assurances or guarantees are given for relationships of any kind. If you love someone enough, and you want to spend the rest of your life with him/her, you have to make a leap of faith. After all the thinking and weighing of every tiny detail, you think you know what you’re getting yourself into and that you’ve got a good idea of what your new life is going to be like, and you close your eyes – and you LEAP!!!!!
There you are, in your new life, happily drifting in space, hoping that you are going to land in a very soft place, or that should you need it, your parachute is safely strapped to your back and ready to use (oh geez, did I remember to grab my parachute before I jumped?) so you can make a safe landing, even if it is a bumpy one.
And then a sudden gust of wind blows you off course. It shakes you around like a rag doll. Oh-oh… Or there are sudden lightning in the air. What happened, I never saw the storm brewing?
OK, enough of the metaphors! Sh@# happens. And you have to deal with it. Even if you feel that you ‘didn’t sign up for this.’ Surprise, surprise…you did!!!!!
When you decided to make that leap, when you decided to make the commitment, you ‘signed up for it.’ As much as you want to make it go away, or as much as you want to ignore the problem, you have to deal with it as best you can.
For better or for worse.
It must be laughing it’s head off at us silly people… 😀