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Selfishness is being concerned excessively or exclusively, for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.” ~ Wikipedia

An entitlement mentality is a state of mind in which an individual comes to believe that privileges are instead rights, and that they are to be expected as a matter of course.” ~ Conservapedia

Two of my pet hates.

Mostly, they go hand in hand. And I believe a huge portion of the youth on this planet are to a big extent guilty of both, but especially the latter. Please note that I did not say ‘all of them’! I know gorgeous young people who were raised to be thankful, kind and empathetic. But unfortunately I know or have seen enough to know that a whole lot of our young ones believe they are ‘owed’ – they must get a car when they turn sixteen (in our country 18 or 21), they must wear only brand name clothes, they must have the latest in electronics and cell phones, etc. Why? Says who? Where do they think the money comes from? What have they done that makes them so special that they think it is their right? Nobody dies without those things, so you don’t have to have them.

You must have food, a roof over your head, clothes to wear and if you are very lucky, two loving parent to raise you and teach you the important values in life. The rest, if parents can afford it, are privileges, not rights!

I must also add, that although I believe it is a modern problem, I know there are some people from the older generations also guilty of selfishness, but I find there is less to no entitlement with them. They knew from a young age that you cannot get everything you want, when you want it. They learnt the hard way that you have to actually work for what you want.

So – where and why did this new notion creep in? I’ve got my ideas about it, but since I know this post is already going to land me in hot water, I will not go there today…

The germ of this post started a while ago when I watched ‘The Earthing Movie’. In it some youngsters were asked if they know what earthing is all about. They were horrified to realize that it means walking barefoot, because they have 100’s of pairs of shoes. Another one said that his shoes define him. WHAT??? I was shocked. Why would any one person need that many shoes? Why would parents allow them to buy that many? Why would someone think that they are defined (judged) by their shoes and not who they are as a person? I know what you are going to say – freedom of choice, free market, capitalism, what does it have to do with me, etc. But please, THINK about it. Not only is it the wrong value system, this crazy consumerism is also killing this earth we are living on.

This is HUGE, my friends, this is huge. And it is a real problem…

Until next time, think about it, please. 🙂

About zelmare

Hallo to you from the southern most part of the African continent - South Africa!! To put my life in a nutshell : I raised 3 absolutely fabulous kids (I'm sure you will hear a lot about them, since I am a very proud mama), I became a doting grandmother two years ago and recently bought a house in the Western Cape, and in doing so, realized a dream I've had for many, many years. I love traveling, which I don't do often enough. I love living a simple life - cooking, gardening, knitting and of course, blogging. There is still a lot I want to do and see in my lifetime, but time will tell how much of that I can actually accomplish. I am looking forward to meeting a lot of lovely new friends and interesting people here on WordPress! :)

11 responses »

  1. You’ve highlighted the issue so well! It is a major problem these days. Youth now believes that the fancy brand tags or Super expensive phones/cars are adding to their value. May be the value system now needs a subtle differentiation between necessities and desires! Like you said Rights and privileges. Great post. Well written 🙂

  2. The power of advertising is exactly that- powerful in the way that it manages to influence the impressionable youth. Selfishness and entitlement is about more besides, but I think that the retailers and manufacturers have managed to create a ‘need’ for these high end brands amongst the youth and that is a big problem

    • It sure is a problem, but parents are there to guide and teach them what is really important and what not. To compete with advertising is probably not easy, but it must be shown for what it is.

  3. I believe that the notion is the parents fault. That is how they are raised. Entitled. Maybe not on purpose. But if a child/person is acting entitled, it is because they were allowed to be so while growing up/in their own homes. Hard truth!

  4. Why do some people feel as if they are entitled to and deserving of free stuff on-demand?


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