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False Bay, Western Cape, South Africa.

Be positive. Be positive. Be positive…

Easier said than done. I can pretend I am positive all the time, while I’m screaming inside. What good will that do? Maybe if I pretend hard enough, I’ll actually become positive? Maybe. I doubt it though.

I’ve written before about how I do all these little ‘things’ to stay busy and positive and happy. It’s not working for me anymore.

Let me tell you why. (You might not be interested to know about my woes, but I’ll tell you anyway…)

I AM happy about the fact that we (my loved ones) are all still healthy, have food to eat, and roofs over our heads. I AM happy that we are comparatively free to live our lives and go about our business (the ones here in South Africa anyway. The loved ones in Ireland and Canada, are much less free.)

But the fact that all of us cannot see the end of these limitations that have been placed on us regarding travel, the fact that a lot of things related to Covid and vaccines are still unclear and uncertain, is really, REALLY getting my goat now!!! And I know I’m not the only one. And it is also not only for the sake of traveling. Thousands, maybe millions of people have loved ones living in other countries – children, grandchildren, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters – and we are forbidden to see them. What does that do to family relationships? How does that impact on people’s mental health? I can tell you – very negatively.

My shoulders and neck are sore and stiff all the time. I don’t sleep well. I’m irritated. I have difficulty breathing properly. And I cry at the drop of a hat.

Maybe that’s just me. Maybe I’m just a sugar lump, that melts at the first few drops of rain. But I’m thinking there must be others out there who feel the same way.

About zelmare

Hallo to you from the southern most part of the African continent - South Africa!! To put my life in a nutshell : I raised 3 absolutely fabulous kids (I'm sure you will hear a lot about them, since I am a very proud mama), I became a doting grandmother two years ago and recently bought a house in the Western Cape, and in doing so, realized a dream I've had for many, many years. I love traveling, which I don't do often enough. I love living a simple life - cooking, gardening, knitting and of course, blogging. There is still a lot I want to do and see in my lifetime, but time will tell how much of that I can actually accomplish. I am looking forward to meeting a lot of lovely new friends and interesting people here on WordPress! :)

2 responses »

  1. It is interesting what you are saying, I get it, but I also think back to times past and how much worse it was back then. I’m kind of glad if the world is being shut down that it is for a pandemic and not a world war. I think people in the 2nd world war and first probably had it a lot worse than what we are experiencing. While there is a lot of uncertainly in the world, the world is, I hope, working together to make it better.
    I have a friend whose mother came to Australia in the 50’s and then only saw her mother maybe once after that. They didn’t have facetime, or messenger. If phone calls were possible they cost too much money.
    Maybe it is taking longer than everyone thought, but we have to be grateful for so much as well. That is how I have looked at it. Things will recover and things will get back to normal. Or maybe, as our government keeps saying, it is the new covid normal.
    I’m sure I haven’t helped, but for me thinking about what past generations had to go through makes me very grateful for what we have and what we can achieve now.

    • Hi Leanne! I’m sorry for taking so long to reply – I haven’t been too active here. I really appreciate you taking the time to read my tirade, and reply.
      Of course, I agree that having a WW rage around you is much worse than this pandemic. And my SO’s parents came from Germany to live in South Africa when he was just 5 years old, and it was hard for them. Very different from the world we live in now.
      It is not that I’m not grateful for a huge list of things, it is just that I’m over it now. And truthfully also, I’m one of the few (relatively speaking) who feels that this whole pandemic was more orchestrated than real, and the measures taken have been way over the top. The fact that countries take step forward, and then two steps back, is difficult for me to handle. I would like to know at what point are they going to say – enough, this is not workung anymore.


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