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I have awesome children, I love them to bits and an amazing boyfriend who is the light of my life, so they will most definitely pop up here from time to time.

Honey… I’m ho-ome!

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Been there, done that, did not get the t-shirt. ๐Ÿ™‚

My last post was all about my excitement over my impending visit to my daughter in Canada. Well, I’ve been, and I’m back!

The three weeks flew by, and as I got ready to head home, it felt unrealย that my holiday could be over already…

(Why does one always feel torn? Or is it just me? What I mean is – before I left, I was torn because I was going on holiday without my SO*, and after 3 weeks in Canada, I was torn again, this time because I would have loved staying longer to spend more time with my daughter and son-in-law, but I was missing my SO so much, I had to come home… ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

Anyway…about my trip…

I LOVED IT! ๐Ÿ™‚ย  I’ve wanted to see Canada for many years, and now I’ve done it. And may I say, what a beautiful country it is! Of course I haven’t seen the WHOLE country, that would probably ( ๐Ÿ˜‰ ) take more than 3 weeks, but what I’ve seen has left me happy and content, because it was all that I expected, and more!

At the top of Sulphur Ridge.

At the top of Sulphur Ridge.

Besides enjoying being with Xan and Stef, and getting to know the area where they live, as well as the city of Edmonton, they spoiled me beyond any expectations, and for that I thank them from the bottom of my heart. They took time off work and drove me around all over the place! I got to go to Drumheller and see the amazing countryside around it, I was fortunate to visit the absolutely fantastic Royal Tyrrell Museum ( dinosaurs) which is well worth a visit, even if you may think you are not really into dinosaurs. And… I got to see and experience The Canadian Rockies!

Oh. My. Word.

Beyond beautiful. The beauty of it often left me speechless, and definitely in awe of the power and wonder of nature. I could go there again, and again, and again, and I will not tire of the awesome beauty. I was fortunate enough to experience these magnificent mountains from a tourist’s perspective, as well as on a more ‘personal’, intimate level, as we drove around and stopped at numerous sites, and walked and climbed to a point where I thought I was not going to make it. But I did (with a little help and encouragement from Xan & Stef!), and I’m glad I persevered. The rewards were such that I hope if I forget everything else in my old age, I will remember that.

So, thanks to my SO, my daughter and Stef, I can tick another couple of boxes on my Bucket List: Canadian Rockies – CHECK. Banff – CHECK. Jasper – CHECK.

I will not ‘check’ Canada just yet, as it is such a vast country, and I feel I need to see a bit more of it before I can say I’ve seen Canada!

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(Next time, I might write a bit about the things I found odd about Canada…)

*SO Significant Other

3,2,1!!!!!

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Up, up, and away...

Up, up, and away…

The final countdown.

Three more sleeps, and then I’m up,up and away!!!

I cannot understand how one person can be such a mess of emotions… Super-excited. Stressed. Worried. Sad. Fortunately, I’m not feeling all of that in equal measure!

I am super-excited. I’m starting to pack today, which is not something I normally do. I usually leave the packing to the last day, but this time I can’t help myself. I want to get on that ‘plane, and fly off to far-away places, and of course, to my daughter!!!!! Cannot wait to spend some quality time with her, to see where they live, and how. And of course, to explore new places (for me!) with her and her hubby.

I am stressed. I haven’t traveled on my own for a very long time, and it is a veeeeeeerrry long trip… Another reason why I am starting to pack now, is for the fear of forgetting important things, which stresses me out too. And I’ve got a few important things to do here before I go, and I’m not sure I’ll get it all done.

I’m worried. I do believe that I’m the only one that can look after my cattle the way I do! I know I’m probably wrong, but that’s just the way I feel. I’m worried to leave them and not be there if something goes wrong.

And I am a little sad. It’s sad that I have to leave my SO* here and go off on my own. He is the reason why I haven’t traveled on my own for so long. I know I will miss him terribly.

But all in all, I’m ready to go! Its been some time since I’ve been off to explore a new country, and Canada has been on my list of ‘places to see’! And I’m sure that once the wheels of the ‘plane leave the ground, I’ll be all excited, and forget to be stressed, or worried. Maybe just a little sad…

SO* Significant other

Discipline

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Today I am going to raise a few eyebrows, I’m sure. I am going to stray from my normal, boring, run-of-the-mill ‘what I did today’ style of blogging. I’m going to get on my soapbox about something I feel very strongly about…DISCIPLINE, OR RATHER, THE LACK THEREOF.

When I was growing up, it was the norm that children were to be seen, not heard. While I do not totally agree with this concept, what it did teach us, was never to interrupt a conversation (ie. manners). It taught us that we had very little say in everyday decisions, like what mom was going to make for dinner, whether we stayed home when mom went shopping, or went along, how to behave while shopping, and VERY important – how to talk to adults when we did get the chance, and talk to people in general.

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I wonder when it happened, and why, that parents relinquished their status as the grown-ups, the ones with the ‘power’ if you will. And I don’t mean POWER in a negative way, but I mean that the adults have the final say, for goodness’ sake! Why do children have the power to make decisions in families these days? Why do parents constantly give in to their whims, and their tantrums? They are the CHILDREN!!!! You, are the ADULTS, the mother or father, the leaders of the family. You are actually the ones to say, NO, you cannot have a toy and candy today, we are here to buy groceries. And you can roll around on the ground and shout all you want, YOU STILL WON’T GET IT!!! NO, you cannot stay up until 11 pm to watch TV, you’ve got school tomorrow. YES, you are allowed to go and visit your friend today, but be back at home by 10 pm. YES, you can go swimming, but take your sister along.Etc.

Not pretty, is  it?

Not pretty, is it?

I get the impression that parents are actually scared of their children. And make no mistake – the kids know it! WHY? Have you noticed their size? What can they actually do to you? Scream and shout? Are you afraid that they might be upset with you if you take a stand?

Can I tell you a secret? If you give in to your children all the time, if you allow them to do what they want, if you allow them to rule the roost with very few or no rules, chances are you’ve got brats for children, that nobody enjoys being around. Chances are also good that they will be no-good lay-abouts when they grow up, or worse – criminals.

Please understand – I am not saying that kids have no say in anything. Love and discipline actually go hand-in-hand. Children need love, and lots of it, but you as parents are supposed to be the ones that make rules, so children know what their boundaries are. You are the ones that have the right to make the majority of the decisions, you are after all the ones with the experience, the ones that work for your money, so you can look after your family. Act like you are the adults, and teach your children to respect you, and other people, and other people’s property.

A lack of respect for other people’s rights and property is a big problem today, that is why bullying is such a huge issue in schools these days, theft is for so many children a way of life, and education is going down the drain because children ignore teachers, and intimidate them to the point where the schools might as well close down for all the ‘education’ that happens there!

Guess what? It all starts at home. Bottom line. Don’t you dare blame the teachers, or the system. Point your finger at yourself, and lack of discipline at home.

Angry young man...

Angry young man…

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To plan, or not to plan…

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Somehow, very little in my life goes according to plan.

Being religious, I do believe things happen or don’t happen for a reason. And that, however much you plan, things might not go your way if your plans don’t fit in with the ‘Big Plan.’ So basically, planning doesn’t help much, except you cannot go through life without some plans – how to make a living, where to live, who to spend your life with, etc.

At the moment, I am home alone. I LOVE time alone, like most of you probably do, but sometimes the opportunity to do my own thing and be on my own, fills me with less excitement than at other times. I THINK it has to do with choice.

I love being alone when I need time to recharge, rethink, and revamp, but then I want to be able to choose that time. I am alone at the moment through absolutely no choice of my own.I HATE THAT. And when I feel like this, I find it very hard to make the most of my time alone. I feel sorry for myself instead… How pathetic is that.

Tonight is the finals of the 2014 World Cup Soccer, as you well know, and I have to watch it alone. Fun!!! ๐Ÿ˜ฆ Not only am I alone, but my SO is in Cape Town, and although he actually hates soccer, and has only followed the soccer through me, he is watching tonight with a house full of family and friends.

And the last bit that makes it worse tonight than it normally is – my youngest son was with me for 3 days, and I loved every single moment of it, but he had to leave today. I’m feeling so sorry for myself, you will not believe it!

If I could PLAN tonight, it would have been very different, believe me! And even then it probably would have a few twists and turns… ๐Ÿ™‚

But hey, maybe a few glasses of wine, and I’ll feel a whole lot better! And I promise I won’t write a thing again until it’s something positive and upbeat!

Slow Sundays

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Sunday eve.

A quiet, peaceful Sunday, after a busy week. I needed that.

Growing up, I used to hate Sunday nights. Lately, it is the best time of the week for me. I need the quiet to just be. To surf a bit on the web, watch TV, and now, once again, to blog! ๐Ÿ™‚

And also, Sunday afternoons is skype time! I get to chat to my daughter thousands of miles away in Canada – I also need that. We catch up on each other’s lives, we gossip, we moan a bit, if needs be, and we share ideas and recipes. Special.

Another very special feature of my Sundays, is the time I get to spend with my SO*. We do see each other a lot during the week (mostly), but we are busy, and we talk about everything that needs to be done, and we get on with it. But on a Sunday, we do everything in slow motion. We get up slowly, have a slow, late breakfast, drive out to the farm to see that everything is in order there, and when we get back home, we relax, and talk, and re-connect with each other. I need that.

After a Sunday like this, I can face the week ahead.

*Significant Other

Too little time…

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A quick ‘hallo’ a while ago, a promise to write something again, and then…nothing!

Time.

Our big friend, and our big enemy. We often have too little time to fit everything into a day that we would like to do.

Now, this evening, I find myself with a little bit of the precious commodity. And as I start writing, I know Murphy is probably lurking in the shadows, and the rest of the household will probably come home just as I am on a roll here! ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m not going to take the time tonight to add photographs, I’ll just write as the words form in my mind.

I stopped blogging about 18 months ago, and of course, lots have happened in the meantime, and I’m also not going to try and fill you in on everything, but just whatever comes to mind.

We had our overseas trip – wonderful. Lots of snow, white Christmas, lots of places that I’ve never been to before. I know that I’ve got an insatiable hunger to travel, and I could probably travel regularly and happily for the rest of my life!

We had my daughter’s wedding, I had to say goodbye, which was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do, but I survived that… Then the new year started, and I had to say goodbye again. This time to my oldest son. He had finished his studies the year before, and he wanted to move down to Cape Town, and start his working life there.

I’ve just been down to visit him for his birthday, and I can fortunately say that he is loving his life down there. He found a good job (eventually!), he is now close to his girlfriend (after 2 years of having a long distance relationship), he’s got new friends, and just generally doing very well. I am a happy mom, although I miss him something terrible – constantly.

And us?

Well, we now have something in the region of 170 head of cattle, and we are kept very, very busy. My SO* still has his earth moving and plant hire business as well, so between that, the farm, and the house, we are kept running. ๐Ÿ™‚ Which is a good thing, I suppose…

That is partly why I have not been blogging, and partly because I’ve sort of just lost the passion for it, and partly just because I probably spent too much time writing, it was maybe becoming an obsession.

So let’s see if I can keep a balance this time. Write and post some pics once in a while, and not sit with the laptop on my lap all the time.

It was good chatting with you all again, although it was a bit of a ramble! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

*Significant other

 

 

 

Vitamins, please!

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This year is/was CRAZY.

First off, a huge move at the very end of last year, from a place I’ve lived for the last 25 years, to a place where I know hardly any people. Coping with kids in the house again (a constant headache for me…), and especially a very difficult child, who had no worries to make life as complicated and as unpleasant as he possibly could for everyone around him…

Then, becoming a ‘farmer’, learning to handle cattle and falling head over heels in love with them. ๐Ÿ™‚

The next issue was the hardest bit, as weird as it may sound…hearing from my daughter that they are planning to move to Canada, and it becoming a reality… ย And then immediately after that the fact that they are also planning to get married before they move. (Less difficult to get my head around then the Canada news…)

In the last couple of weeks we’ve had a death in the family and a memorial service for the boy that most people will remember as amazingly difficult, and then this weekend, a wedding. The lowest, and the highest one can go emotionally.

I’ve got some pics from this past (HAPPY!!!) weekend for you. Actually only an appetizer, but something to set the mood and the scene of the wedding. I didn’t take photographs of the actual wedding, as I wanted to experience every moment first hand. And there were photographers to take pictures from all sides and angles, so for the ‘real’ wedding photo’s, you’ll have to wait a bit longer. As do I…

The couple had their own, very clear ideas of what they wanted for this special day. In short, a relaxed, casual day, out in the open, with all the close friends and family having fun.

Xandrรฉ busy with preparations the day before the wedding, and she still has enough energy left to be her normal, fun self. :)

Xandrรฉ busy with preparations the day before the wedding, and she still has enough energy left to be her normal, fun self. ๐Ÿ™‚

The couple at the end of the day - very tired and ready to go rest up for the big day.

The couple at the end of the day – very tired and ready to go rest up for the big day.

Wedding day...Xan being pampered.

Wedding day…Xan being pampered.

The pretty, sexy heels for the wedding ceremony.

The pretty, sexy heels for the wedding ceremony.

The cute and colourful flats for the reception.

The cute and colourful flats for the reception.

And that’s all you’re getting from me at the moment. (To be honest, that’s all I’ve got at the moment… ๐Ÿ˜‰ ย )

 

Now I can admit to being tired myself, and now I can allow myself to get excited about our trip to Europe coming up. I’m so very, very grateful for my SO* that he made the decision earlier that we should go away for Christmas, because we both need a break and a change of scenery… I need to get my mind ready for the big ‘goodbye’ at the end of the year…

 

*Significant Other