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Esther Lui for NPR.

To me, this period between Christmas and New Year is like being in limbo.

Definition of in limbo, according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary ~ 1in a forgotten or ignored place, state, or situation. 2: in an uncertain or undecided state or condition.

The one big celebration (Christmas) is over and done with, the next one is around the corner. In between nothing much happens, except to wait uncomfortably and/or impatiently for the next party to start.

In South Africa, we have our long summer holiday over December. Normally from around the first week in December, for more or less five weeks. Most people go away to the seaside for a big part of those 5 weeks, others have to stay home because they work harder than ever over the holiday season.

Whether you work or go away, some kind of get-together is normally planned to ring in the NEW YEAR! Yaaaay…

South Africans like to party and spend time with friends, and a ‘braai’ is mostly the way to do that over the December holidays, and most especially on New Year’s eve. I still have to do a post on a ‘braai’ for you, so you can fully understand the concept. In short, it involves the cooking of meat over an open fire, but it is so, so much more.

This picture gives you some idea of what ‘braai’ means… 😉

We (as in my SO* and myself), like most people, like to spend some time with friends, but somehow we end up being home on New Year’s, and in bed before midnight. I think we have decided some time ago, that time passes inexorably, one year comes and then goes, and the next one is there to take its place. Nothing much there to celebrate.

This (nearly) past year, was not deemed to be particularly kind to us, so we will not be sorry to see it go, but at the same time we have no idea what the new year has in stall for us, so we are not specifically excited to welcome it into our lives. Let’s wait and see…

So, I am quite positive that we will spend this New Year’s eve at home, in front of the TV, with no regrets – not that this year is finally over, or that we are not out celebrating.

Are you planning a party or celebration of some kind? If so, please put your safety and that of your family first.

*SO – significant other.

Best wishes to all…

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To everybody who celebrate Christmas – may you have a peaceful, blessed day with your loved ones, however many of you manage to be together. Let’s all hope that the trials and tribulations of 2020 will never be repeated again…

Here’s to endings, and the promise of better things to come…or not ?

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Cheers! We are creeping closer to Christmas day, and shortly after that, the end of this year.

We do Christmas softly and quietly, and New Year the same, maybe even more so. Weirdly enough, we do not have specific traditions at Christmas time, we sort of go with the flow. I do not do resolutions, ever. Not at New Year’s in any case. I often decide to change things, in my house, in my life – but that happens whenever I need to do it throughout the year.

I came across this post I did on Instagram nearly year ago, and it really shocked me. How is it that what I (we) felt about last year, we are feeling this year – x10!!!! I had forgotten all about it… :

I know, right!!! We thought 2019 was bad! I cannot even remember why… What I do know, is that it fades in comparison to what 2020 brought us.

There must be a lesson in that, surely?

  • Be happy with what you’ve got now, because you don’t know what’s coming.
  • Live every day as if it’s your last.
  • Live in the moment.
  • Appreciate the little things in life.
  • and really be thankful for everything you’ve got.
  • Never make any assumptions re the future.
  • You can make plans until you are blue in the face, that doesn’t mean it will come to fruition. “Life is what happens while you’re making other plans.
  • Show and tell people close to you that you love them.

I will most definitely approach 2021 with a lot more caution, and a good deal of trepidation. I will let go of 2020 gladly but respectfully. I will absolutely NOT assume next year is going to be any better, but one can surely hope…

Never the ‘new normal’.

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Soft sunrise.


We live in strange times, I’m sure you’ll agree. Or like the Chinese curse says – we live in interesting times.

I can’t say that I’m enjoying any of it, if I’m honest. I do the ‘now’ things like baking bread, trying new recipes, self care, etc., but I’m still not enjoying it.

Also, to be honest, not because my life has changed drastically, because it hasn’t. I’m an introvert who loves being home, doing my own thing, and I have very few friends. So basically, all that has changed, is the fact that I have to sanitize my hands to pieces when I go shopping, and I have to wear a mask, which I hate, but I do it willingly if it helps to keep me safer, as well as the people I come in contact with.

I hate this time mostly because it is so uncertain. We don’t know how long this is going to last, and when we’ll be able to meet freely with friends and family again, anywhere we wish to. And, I refuse to talk about the ‘new normal’. This situation will never be normal. It might be the current, temporary state of being, but never the ‘new normal’, because that implies that it is here to stay, and we have to get used to it.

In our country (South Africa), we have crazy rules and regulations. If I tell you, you might not believe me, but I promise you, it is true. Besides the normal things like you are not allowed to gather in large groups, no movies, no music shows, no church, only a few grades allowed to go back to school, we have curfew. Yes, curfew!!! We are not allowed in the streets between 9 pm and 4 am. Also, we cannot buy cigarettes, or alcohol – it is against the law now. If you are caught doing any of this, you get arrested, and you get a criminal record. I KID YOU NOT!!! I won’t go into the government’s idiotic reasons for this, you can google that if you really want to know. It is enough that this is the true state of affairs right now.

So we are living in this socialist, militarist situation for now (hopefully only for now) where we are treated like wayward children, which is another reason why this will never, ever be the ‘new normal’ for me. I refuse to accept that a few people can decide for me how I have to live my life, and hopefully there are enough people in this country who feel the same way, and we can stand together soon to rise up – peacefully- against this tyranny.

Enjoy your weekend, fellow bloggers. 🙂