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Discipline

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Today I am going to raise a few eyebrows, I’m sure. I am going to stray from my normal, boring, run-of-the-mill ‘what I did today’ style of blogging. I’m going to get on my soapbox about something I feel very strongly about…DISCIPLINE, OR RATHER, THE LACK THEREOF.

When I was growing up, it was the norm that children were to be seen, not heard. While I do not totally agree with this concept, what it did teach us, was never to interrupt a conversation (ie. manners). It taught us that we had very little say in everyday decisions, like what mom was going to make for dinner, whether we stayed home when mom went shopping, or went along, how to behave while shopping, and VERY important – how to talk to adults when we did get the chance, and talk to people in general.

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I wonder when it happened, and why, that parents relinquished their status as the grown-ups, the ones with the ‘power’ if you will. And I don’t mean POWER in a negative way, but I mean that the adults have the final say, for goodness’ sake! Why do children have the power to make decisions in families these days? Why do parents constantly give in to their whims, and their tantrums? They are the CHILDREN!!!! You, are the ADULTS, the mother or father, the leaders of the family. You are actually the ones to say, NO, you cannot have a toy and candy today, we are here to buy groceries. And you can roll around on the ground and shout all you want, YOU STILL WON’T GET IT!!! NO, you cannot stay up until 11 pm to watch TV, you’ve got school tomorrow. YES, you are allowed to go and visit your friend today, but be back at home by 10 pm. YES, you can go swimming, but take your sister along.Etc.

Not pretty, is  it?

Not pretty, is it?

I get the impression that parents are actually scared of their children. And make no mistake – the kids know it! WHY? Have you noticed their size? What can they actually do to you? Scream and shout? Are you afraid that they might be upset with you if you take a stand?

Can I tell you a secret? If you give in to your children all the time, if you allow them to do what they want, if you allow them to rule the roost with very few or no rules, chances are you’ve got brats for children, that nobody enjoys being around. Chances are also good that they will be no-good lay-abouts when they grow up, or worse – criminals.

Please understand – I am not saying that kids have no say in anything. Love and discipline actually go hand-in-hand. Children need love, and lots of it, but you as parents are supposed to be the ones that make rules, so children know what their boundaries are. You are the ones that have the right to make the majority of the decisions, you are after all the ones with the experience, the ones that work for your money, so you can look after your family. Act like you are the adults, and teach your children to respect you, and other people, and other people’s property.

A lack of respect for other people’s rights and property is a big problem today, that is why bullying is such a huge issue in schools these days, theft is for so many children a way of life, and education is going down the drain because children ignore teachers, and intimidate them to the point where the schools might as well close down for all the ‘education’ that happens there!

Guess what? It all starts at home. Bottom line. Don’t you dare blame the teachers, or the system. Point your finger at yourself, and lack of discipline at home.

Angry young man...

Angry young man…

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Thanksgiving – My Way

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We don’t celebrate Thanksgiving in South Africa. We do have a lot of ridiculous holidays (just my opinion), but if I could choose holidays and days of celebration, Thanksgiving would certainly be one of them.

In everyday life, we often get so stuck with the things that are wrong in our lives, we forget to be thankful for all our blessings. So I thought that tonight, I’ll give thanks to a few things.

It was my moms birthday today. I’m thankful that my SO* and I could go and spend some time with her, and that my daughter and my youngest son also took some time out to come and be with her. It wasn’t a huge celebration, and we didn’t eat lavishly, but we had lunch together and shared a lot of jokes and laughter.

I’m extremely grateful that we were blessed last week with 3 new calves in 4 days!!! Two heifers and one bull baby. The one little heifer has not been too well for the last three days, but we got some shots from the vet, which seem to have helped a lot. She’s not a hundred percent well yet, but much better than two days ago. And they are all so gorgeous, I don’t know how I’m ever going to be able to let them go when the time comes…

I’m grateful for the fact that we are planning this wonderful holiday in December, and that I’ll get a chance to experience the wonderful continent of Europe again after eight years of waiting and dreaming… It is beyond exciting to me!!!! πŸ™‚

I’m so extremely grateful to have three absolutely wonderful children, who grew up to be amazing young adults. I love spending time with them, not just because I can then touch and hug them, but because they always make me laugh – without fail. πŸ™‚

My three rays of sunshine!!!! πŸ˜‰

I have a looooooong list of things to be grateful for. The usual stuff like my health, a roof over my head, more than enough food to eat, etc., etc. And believe me, I really am grateful for all of that. But, even if this is corny and schmaltzy and a clichΓ©, I can’t not mention how very grateful I am for having a wonderful, generous, loving man in my life. I’m thankful that I’ve got someone to share my thoughts with, even if we don’t always agree on everything. I love spending a quiet lazy Sunday at home with him, doing nothing. I love Β  exploring new places with him, so you can imagine how much I’m looking forward to Christmas in Europe with him!!! πŸ™‚

Once one starts making a list of positives, you realize that you can go on and on and on, because most of us are blessed beyond belief. So, I’m going to end this post with this note to myself: stop dwelling on the negatives, and enjoy all the positives in your life, ZelmarΓ©!!!! πŸ™‚

 

Our beautiful new little Brahman heifer.

The sick little girl, on the day she was born (last week Sunday)

 

Our huge bull baby – a lot bigger than any of the other calves!! πŸ™‚

 

I hope you all have a very wonderful week!!!! πŸ™‚

 

*Significant Other