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So, what changed?

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On the edge of a precipice… Not the photographer’s caption – that is completely mine. Photo by Erik Mclean on Pexels.com

And with that I mean for you personally, in your life.

Because of the pandemic. Have you come to any profound realizations during this time? Important enough to change how you do things on a permanent basis?

I have realized that I need people even less than I thought before. I find that it is increasingly difficult for me to go out and cope with the ‘stuff’ that comes with people. So, when this pandemic has finally run its course, I will probably still prefer to go out as little as possible, deal with people as little as I can.

I have discovered that I need less clothes than I thought before. It is nice to keep buying new clothes, but have you ever sat down and thought to yourself how much of the clothes in your closet you actually really need? Especially if you don’t have to go to an office everyday. It is scary if you start doing a bit of research into how much money goes into the buying and making of clothes and accessories! Can you imagine how much resources (cotton, bamboo, silk, leather, etc.) are needed to feed that greed? Our earth will be so much better off if we can wean ourselves from the hunger to have closets full of the latest and best in fashion…

And food. Do you know more than a third of food produced in the world goes to waste? Why? Why are people so wasteful with food? Because it is too easy to just go out and buy more? Maybe it is because hardly anybody produces their own food anymore. To most people, it is something you buy in a shop. No thought is given to how it got there. Or what it is made of. So now because X amount of food is needed, and the population keeps growing, more and more food ‘needs’ to be produced, when actually a third less is really needed – if only people were not so wasteful.

But. Yes, there is always a ‘but’. But because of the fact that I need less people, I need more of the WWW. I do spend a fair amount of time on YouTube, Google and the TV, which is most certainly far from ideal. If I can get myself to do a whole lot less of that, I’ll be happy. I do grow more of my own food, not close to what I would like to do, but I’ll get there. Baby steps. And I’ll keep doing it. I’ll keep baking bread, and I will try to not buy any at all, in future.

Finally, I have realized that we have given away waaaaaayyyy to much of our personal autonomy. How did that happen? I will keep fighting it in my small way. I will not sit back and be passive about it. We are not puppets. We are not programmed by uniform micro chips planted into our brains (yet). I find it hard to believe how so many millions of people are happy with the fact that all decisions about their lives have been taken away from them.

What has changed for you? What realizations and conclusions have you reached? I’ll be interested to know. I doubt anybody will come out and talk to me about these things, but someone out there might just surprise me…

Planning ahead, not my strong point…

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We had our first good, soaking seasonal rain!

That makes me very happy. It rained quite hard during the night, which didn’t bode well for sound sleep. Normally, I sleep like a baby when it rains, but I have guests in the guesthouse and the last time it rained (the previous season), the roof in the lounge sprung a leak. Ugh. So we ‘fixed’ it, but couldn’t know for sure if it was fixed until we had some violent wind and rain again. Which we did last night. Hence the sleeplessness…

But, YAY!, the guests were happy this morning, they had better sleep than I did because there was no leak.

I am trying to fine tune my planning for the reno of the guesthouse, and I am battling a bit. I found some wallpaper that I quite like in my friend’s stash, but I’m not exactly sure yet if I want to use it, and if I do, which one to use. I can’t decide on the colour schemes in the new bedrooms. There’s a bit of a problem with the positioning of the basin in the new bathroom and I’m not sure if I should try and solve it now, or while we are actually there, doing the work. I know myself, I’m over here all ‘planning ahead’, but when push comes to shove, everything will probably happen at the same time and only when we are in the thick of things!

So, why bother now? Mmmm…I heard you mumbling under your breath over there! I’m trying to be pro-active here people, give me a break! But it is just easier for me to make these decisions as things happen. I ‘see’ what I want to do then, and usually the colour scheme sorts itself out when I find one item I really love, like a scatter cushion, or a lamp or a rug or something. I can’t stop myself from trying to plan now either, because I am anxious to get things going. Oi…

In the meantime, I will be enjoying the wet earth, the cloudy weather, and I’ll keep on looking all over for inspiration to strike me! 😀

Monday musings.

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Tree at sunrise.

I do love alliteration, don’t you? 😀

Mondays used to be a hated day in my books. Then there was a short while that I actually didn’t like weekends. I kid you not! That was during a period when we were at home weekend, after weekend, after weekend – not going anywhere, not seeing anybody, just home. All. The. Time.

But now, being older (just a bit), and wiser (a lot !), I want to ask you the following:

  • when your alarm goes off on a Monday, and you hit the snooze button, and then you snuggle into your comfortable bed for a few minutes more, are you thankful for that bed? Thankful for the fact that you’ve got a roof over your head and a bed?
  • when you get up and jump into the shower, are you at all aware of the fact that there are people who do not have that luxury?
  • When you sit down for breakfast, or grab a cup of coffee, do you ever think about the people who don’t have the same privileges you do?

See where I’m going with this? Because if you don’t, I’ve got a few more things to put on my list…

The important one that I need to get to, is this – I’m sure that the main reason you hate Mondays is because it means you have to go to work. Not so?

Well, I for one, do not feel sorry for you – YOU’VE GOT A JOB! You can look after your family. Pay your mortgage. Buy food. So many people are out there without jobs, and now with Covid, thousands more will be jobless. And they lie awake at night wondering how they are going to put food on the table, wishing that, in the morning, they can get up and go to work.

So, my dear blog friend, if you are in the privileged position to have a job that you can go to on a Monday morning, please do so with alacrity. If you absolutely, positively despise your job, I know it will be difficult to be thankful, but still, try to be, because you do get a pay check at the end of the week/month. And while you are earning money for the job you hate, start looking out for something else, start thinking about how you can change your situation. But all the time, be thankful. Please.

Until we chat again, be happy! 🙂

Jack of all trades, master of none?

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I’ve been concentrating on writing about wellness lately, maybe because that is where my mind is at, for the moment at least.

I am not an expert on wellness, or psychology. I read up about a range of different ways to relax, to keep calm, and not to let the stressful times we live in impact too much on my life and health. I am getting to the point of being very knowledgeable about my own wellness, but other than that I am still trying out different things to see what works for me.

I am also not an expert on cooking and baking, although I love doing both. I watch a lot of cooking and baking programmes on TV, and I’ve tried some of the recipes – some came out brilliantly, some less so. I do not have the time, in my days or in my life, to perfect my techniques in the kitchen, but I haven’t had many complaints about my food and I’ve received quite a few compliments, so I think I’m doing OK.

Some of my efforts in the kitchen, during lockdown. Bread, rusks, pancakes, rolls and sauerkraut. The sauerkraut was something new for me…

I adore knitting and crocheting. But, you guessed it! I am not an expert in knitting or crocheting. That’s fine – I’ve made quite a lot of things that have made people happy over the years, so I’ll carry on doing just that! I have made coats and jerseys and beanies without patterns, but I’ve never ‘designed’ patterns or made videos on YouTube, and I can live with that.

Some of the projects I’ve made or finished during lockdown. Beanies for my son, beanies for my granddaughter, and some jerseys for myself.

I also love photography, but I am very far from being an expert at that. So I will keep taking pictures, probably until I die, and nothing much will ever come of it, but that’s fine, I enjoy seeing things ‘in pictures’, and I love saving moments for myself, and maybe for the people that love me, for after I’m gone.

I wonder if it’s better to be okay in a lot of things, but not an expert, or should I have focused my attention on one of my interests early on – maybe I could have earned more money out of that? But that’s a moot point, since I will never know what the alternative could have been!

I will keep dawdling on in my own way with the things that bring me joy – maybe, in the end, that is all that counts.

Until next time, stay safe and be happy. 🙂

The place of Sentiment in your life.

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My maternal grandparents ca. 1932

Sentiment.

How important is it to you? How does that influence your life? Or more to the point, how does it impact on your home, and your relationships?

I used to be very sentimental, and found it difficult to throw just about anything out, even after its usefulness had run out. But then I moved out of the house that has been home for more than twenty years, and as I was packing I realized that I have so much stuff from my childhood, and from my student life, and married life, I couldn’t possibly pack everything, and find a place for it in my new place of residence. I had to sift through everything and only keep what I could use, or things that really, really mattered.

I did not find this process easy, and I have repeated it a few more times since then. Every single time, I threw out a lot of things that I actually would rather have kept. But, I can only imagine what my current house would look like if I had kept everything that reminded me of something or someone.

Does that make me less sentimental? I do actually think so, because I can block the emotional reaction I have to certain things, and decide with my head instead of my heart, what I should throw out or keep.

I may be wrong, but I do think that there is very little place for sentiment in the modern era. In general ‘old stuff’ does not mean much to the younger generations. Or am I wrong?

Could it be that they grow into it? I remember years ago my mom wanted to give me a set of plates and side plates that I grew up with, and I pulled my nose up at it! Now, I would give anything to have that set.

There will always be things that I will never get rid of, (I’ll leave that to my children to do after I’m gone! 😉 ), but I do try and keep those to a minimum, so my home and my life don’t get smothered in ‘stuff’. I also think it is a way of moving on with one’s life, to not stay bogged down in the past.

My SO* is at this moment in his life busy cleaning up and throwing out, and he used to keep EVERYTHING… he calls me to tell me how he is suffering, how hard he finds it to throw things out, and I can hear in his voice how he hates it. Things that have been buried in boxes in the garage, mind you, but up to now, he could not get himself so far to sort and discard.

There is a time and place for everything, I always say. You will know when you are ready to clean up – for some it will be sooner than it will be for others.

Keep safe and happy until next time! 🙂