I am going to quickly try and sneak in a few words, though.
We are busy building and changing the guesthouse, and it is chaos!! Noise, dust, dirt, stuff everywhere! I do not know if I should laugh or cry.
I cannot do my washing anymore, because the only washing machine I’ve got is the one in the guesthouse, and they have now turned off the water to do the plumbing of the new bathroom. Eeeeek!!! There is not going to be space for the washing machine in there anymore, and there is no space for it in my house (weird I know, but true.). So until we’ve figured out a new plan, we are a bit screwed.
And I’m back – after having to run out again for something.
So, I’m not going to chat with you now, but wish me luck please, and also hold thumbs that my sanity doesn’t escape somewhere where I can’t find it…
I’ve got a conundrum for you to help me solve. Please.
If you have a situation that isn’t working for you – a job, a relationship, a hobby – anything that you’ve been doing for a while, maybe even years, but it just does not deliver the way you thought it would (or at all), when do you you stop trying? Where do you draw the line?
There are a million clever little quotes about not giving up, and how every failure is a test of your character, how hard work pays off, how success is just around the corner, etc. But surely somewhere along the line you can decide that you’ve rammed your head up against that same wall for long enough, and it is time to bow out gracefully? There should be no shame in that. I think sometimes to enable yourself to move forward or onward, you have to quit doing what you are doing? Also, the more you do something that isn’t working, how do you keep up your enthusiasm for it?
I am writing this with my own job situation in mind, but as I write, a few others’ scenarios come to mind. I know I’m not the only one in this situation, but I also know everybody handles these things differently. I can’t think that you keep doggedly on and on, believing that by never giving up, you’ll eventually reach the success you want. What if you don’t? What if you keep on for years, always living with the stress of things not going according to plan, not working out? I know we often carry on past the expiry date, for different reasons – what people will think, peer pressure, pressure or disapproval from friends and family, social standing, finances.
In the meantime, you could have tried something else, and that could’ve been a huge success. Maybe.
In certain situations it becomes very clear that the time has arrived to draw the line, and you often don’t even think in terms of failure, only to move on. But other times things are a bit murky, and complicated…
I don’t know. It seems to me to be one of those situations where you are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t…
On a slightly more positive note: Roomys The Cat is doing okay. Not great, but not too bad either. He is eating a bit, but he hardly moves (which is probably best). So I am watching him like a hawk, and hopefully he’ll continue to do better every day. (If you are new here, and are wondering what this update is all about, please see previous 3 posts.)
Yes, you read that correctly. It was a 31° C day today – not quite a scorcher, but hot enough. I just came back from taking Daisy for her walk, and the lovely cool breeze blowing at the moment persuaded me to take a seat at the patio table, with my glass of wine and my laptop.
I encountered a bit of a moral dilemma today. This specific issue has come up before, and my SO* and I talked about it a bit, and then I let it go. I was also really not sure if this is the place to discuss it, but I thought – this is a global platform, and I’ll surely get a few opinions on the matter. So, here goes…
I’ve got this little guesthouse, as I’ve mentioned before. And I have come to realize that it is often used as a place for trysts. (Oh, and right there, I’ve shown you my very conservative side…) Nothing has been said to confirm it, except once, when the couple was leaving, the woman said to me – ‘we were never here.’ Clear enough. But I KNOW that other couples have used the place for the same ‘thing’.
Number one, I do not want to become known as ‘the place to go if you’re having an affair’!!!! NOOOO!!! Number two, if I turn a blind eye, which I’ve pretty much been doing up to now, I am condoning what they are doing, which I’m not. Number three, I know what they are doing actually has nothing to do with me, and their money is as good as anybody else’s money, (so just take it and shut up), but since it is happening under my nose, I know what is happening and that makes it my business.
You see my dilemma?
This is the whatsapp ‘conversation’ I had today:
Can I make a booking for tomorrow evening?
No, sorry, I'm fully booked for the weekend.
Ok, can you please keep me up to speed with your bookings for next month? (Huh? )
Which dates are you interested in?
I'm not sure yet, I'll get back to you.
Is the place very private?
Yes it is. (That's how I advertise it, because some people like privacy. Wait....ooooooohhhhh.... )
Thank you. I want to self cater.
It is a self catering guesthouse.
Great. Is the room in your house, or outside. (By this time, I should have blocked the guy, which I didn't. What can I say...)
Where can I see what the place looks like? (What? how are you contacting me, if you haven't seen my FB page or one of my other listings?)
How do you know about my place?
Through a friend. (Lightbulbs going of all over!!!!)
You see what I mean?
So, do I continue turning a blind eye? If not, what do I do? My reputation is at stake here, as is that of my little itty bitty business… HELP!!!!!
Yesterday I was going on about food, and how I’m going to do new recipes, blah blah blah…
Well, I actually did! Nothing difficult or earth shattering, but different.
I made a honey garlic chicken with roast broccoli and rice, which came out very well. Will do it again. I made some changes to the recipe – I added more red wine vinegar because it was waaay to sweet, and I added ginger and chili. Dinner for one coming up…
Just a quick question- I haven’t blogged for about 2 years. It seems the blogosphere has changed drastically? Fewer people blogging. Fewer likes on accounts and a lot less followers? What has happened? I can understand that I might have less of all of the above, but all the blogs I read and look at, has 1 or 2 likes, and very few followers.
I hope some of you will be willing to respond to me.