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A Faraway Birthday.

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LEXI

It is my granddaughter’s second birthday today.

I am so very blessed to have such a lively, healthy, friendly, lovable little girl to be a granny to.

I wish her all the best that life has to give, good health and happiness, faith, hope and tons of love. I wish for her perseverance for life’s little curve balls, a will of iron, a backbone of steel, and a heart of gold.

My sweet little Lexi, remember – I love you like the stars and more – HAPPY 2ND BIRTHDAY!!!!!

A sense of Self…

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My little munchkin.

The second Saturday of the year has come and gone already!

Don’t tell me time doesn’t fly. The last time I held my little granddaughter, she was 4 months old. In the blink of an eye, she is 9 days away from her 2nd birthday, and not a baby anymore. Where did my little baby girl go? Where did the time go? I have no way of knowing when I’ll see her again, and I’ll be a stranger to her, a face she sees from time to time on a cell phone screen… I hate the huge panic over this virus, and I hate the distance between myself and my children and my granddaughter.

One thing I have learnt over the past year -family is important , very much so. Nothing can replace the love of a mother or grandmother, father or grandfather. Uncles, aunts, nieces and nephews – important pieces of the puzzle of life.

I grew up with family (my father was one of 7 children!), then, through circumstances, grew apart from them, and lost contact for many years. I have recently started communicating with a few of my cousins, uncles and aunts, and I KNOW I missed out big time. And I do blame my parents for the loss to a certain extent.

Not everybody has wonderful relationships with their families, I know. But believe me, a life with irritating family members, is just soooooo much better than a life without family.

A gift that lasts…

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Daisy (L) and Roomys (R), my furry babies.

A puppy or a kitten is a very bad idea for a Christmas present.

Unless you have carefully considered every angle, that is.

  • For instance, do you know how big the breed will be when it’s fully grown? A Cocker Spaniel pup is the most adorable little thing, but they grow into good medium sized dogs. Labradors are large dogs, and not suited to small houses and gardens, etc.
  • Do you know the characteristics of the breed you’re planning to buy? Do you know that some dogs, like border collies, kelpies, Australian shepherds, blue heelers, etc., need to exercise everyday. They need space to run, and they need to be challenged. They are very intelligent dogs, and get bored easily. They will not allow you to ignore them – they demand attention. Are you up to the challenge?
  • Are you buying the puppy because your three or four year old has been nagging for a dog? Who is going to look after the dog? You or your child? Be sure your child is old enough to handle the responsibility, or you will end up doing the work. Are you okay with that?
  • Puppies and even older dogs chew. They chew on toys, shoes, area rugs, furniture, plants, anything they can get their teeth into. Can you deal with that? Without lashing out at the dog or hitting it with something?
  • Will you be prepared to give time and attention to your dog? It is cruel to get a dog, and then ignore it completely. They will love you with all their being, the least you can do is give it some love back.
  • Dogs eat a lot. Their food cost a lot of money. They also need to get shots from time to time. Can you afford a dog?

Please consider carefully, leave emotions out of this. And please make sure you get your pup spayed. Please get your puppy from a dog shelter or whatever it is called in your country. (Here it is SPCA or Animal Shelters.) These are dogs that people bought because they didn’t think it through properly, and now they don’t want them anymore.

Cats have slightly different considerations, but in essence they are the same. You also have to consider the breed characteristics and whether you want a short haired or long haired cat. They are slightly more aloof than dogs, and mostly they decide when they are ready for some attention, so keep that in mind.

And most of all, PLEASE do not become one of those people who leave your dog next to the road or thrown into a river in a bag because it has become a nuisance to you. It kills me to see where and in and what condition dogs/cats are sometimes found. No person who does something like that, deserves any kind of respect.

Dogs and cats are amazing creatures, they make wonderful companions, they are loyal beyond measure, and they deserve your love and respect as another living being.

Confession time…

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Oh, what the heck, I might as well confess…!

Remember my post about my love/hate relationship with Christmas? Well, fortunately I do not have the same kind of relationship with Christmas carols – I just plain LOVE them! I can hear you – oh no, she’s one of THEM! I can see the eye rolls and hear the groans. You know what – I don’t care!!! 😀

Boney M, Michael Bublé, Celine Dion, Andy Williams, Bing Crosby, Pentatonix – all of them, all the time. It makes me happy. Most of the time, in any case. There are the moments when my emotions take over and my eyes overflow. Mostly when I realize how long it’s been since I saw my kids, and I wish they were still small and all here with me every single Christmas. But generally I can suppress those sad emotions, and enjoy the music.

It conjures up images of cozy get-togethers around a warm fire. Hot chocolate or eggnog with some cookies, nuts and other snacks in abundance. Laughter and love all around.

In South Africa our Decembers are very different than those images in my mind! It is hot here at that time of year. I’m talking 30° – 35° C, so no snow, and we don’t really do eggnog either. We have lots of cold drinks and ice cold beer, wine and champagne, and we ‘braai’ (something like barbeque, but I’ll have to do a separate post to explain the difference!), and we swim a lot, but somehow in my mind that is not what I see when I hear Christmas carols…

So, whatever your loves and hates of this season, please leave me to enjoy my Christmas songs and music in peace, I promise I won’t bother you with my preferences. Except for this once…!!!! 😉

Until next time, stay calm and sing along. 🙂

Joy.

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Daisy experiencing some JOY. 🙂

” JOY -The emotion of great delight or happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying; keen pleasure; elation.” ~ Collins English Dictionary.

I’ve touched on this before, but this is such a descriptive and beautiful word, and wonderful emotion, I had to go there again…

A question to start off with – is joy and happiness the same thing? Surely you feel joy when you are happy? Or you are happy when you feel joy?

But back to joy. I think it is not often that one feels pure joy, on its deepest, purest level. Like Daisy in the video above.

When do you feel joy? What makes you joyous?

Joy to me is seeing one or all of my children after a long time. We all live very far apart from each other, and the joy when I see them, is so much more intense because of that. Lately, my SO* and I are apart a lot of the time, so when he comes home, the joy is real.

Joy to me is sometimes when a day is stunningly beautiful – sunshine, clear sky, bright colours – and at the same time I am in a place of exceptional natural beauty, and I suddenly realize it… I can feel the bubbling start in my stomach and work its way out of my body… I know it sounds as if I’m high, but I don’t know how else to explain it. Champagne days, I call them. 🙂

I get that same feeling when I am on an airplane and it starts off down the runway. It makes me want to jump up and shout for joy. Sorry, weird again…

Joy is also a bite of food. Most times, when we dine out, the food is okay. Ordinary. Fine. But just sometimes (not often enough), when you take that first bite, and there is this unexpected flavour explosion in your mouth… Oh my! Joy! 😀

Joy can be lots of things to different people. I think being in the moment is important to feel joy. You cannot feel joy if you are always thinking of work, or you are always on your phone, or you are always looking back (on your past). You can only feel the full force of it, when you see, and smell and hear what is happening right now! You have to be fully present.

May each and every one of you experience some joy this week!

Until we chat again – live in the moment. 🙂

*SO – significant other