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Mental well-being.

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False Bay, Western Cape, South Africa.

Be positive. Be positive. Be positive…

Easier said than done. I can pretend I am positive all the time, while I’m screaming inside. What good will that do? Maybe if I pretend hard enough, I’ll actually become positive? Maybe. I doubt it though.

I’ve written before about how I do all these little ‘things’ to stay busy and positive and happy. It’s not working for me anymore.

Let me tell you why. (You might not be interested to know about my woes, but I’ll tell you anyway…)

I AM happy about the fact that we (my loved ones) are all still healthy, have food to eat, and roofs over our heads. I AM happy that we are comparatively free to live our lives and go about our business (the ones here in South Africa anyway. The loved ones in Ireland and Canada, are much less free.)

But the fact that all of us cannot see the end of these limitations that have been placed on us regarding travel, the fact that a lot of things related to Covid and vaccines are still unclear and uncertain, is really, REALLY getting my goat now!!! And I know I’m not the only one. And it is also not only for the sake of traveling. Thousands, maybe millions of people have loved ones living in other countries – children, grandchildren, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters – and we are forbidden to see them. What does that do to family relationships? How does that impact on people’s mental health? I can tell you – very negatively.

My shoulders and neck are sore and stiff all the time. I don’t sleep well. I’m irritated. I have difficulty breathing properly. And I cry at the drop of a hat.

Maybe that’s just me. Maybe I’m just a sugar lump, that melts at the first few drops of rain. But I’m thinking there must be others out there who feel the same way.

Rain and rainbows.

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Hey, who erased part of the rainbow? 😀 

 

“The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.” ~ Dolly Parton

Can’t you just hear Dolly’s voice when you read that ?! 😀 But that is so very true. Not that you have a choice though…

I think, how you handle the rain, while you wait for the rainbow to appear, is actually the important issue. 

Like now, being in lockdown, or not being able to see your family, or whatever the situation in your country is – how to handle it, that is the question. I know a lot of people find these unusual circumstances emotionally and mentally difficult to handle, but even if you don’t, how are you managing it?

Are you just lounging around waiting for things to get back to normal, and actually enjoying all the time off? Are you using the time to learn new skills – baking, sewing, studying? Have you found a new passion? Has this event completely changed your life?

I wrote a post on what I discovered about myself a few days ago (you can have a look at it here)  but as far as the above goes, I’m a bit of a mix of the lot – I enjoy lounging around, I’ve tried a few new things and still have some on my list, and I did a bit of studying (politics, if you please!)  I wish I could say that this is going to change my life dramatically, but I honestly don’t think it will. I live a low profile life – I enjoy doing domestic things like cooking and knitting, I don’t like waste, and I try to live in such a way that I don’t partake in anything that can damage the ecosystem and Mother Earth.

A paragon of virtue? No, I’m not. Far from it, but at least I try in my small way…

Stay safe, stay healthy until next time! 🙂

 

What breaks a mind?

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I have always been fascinated by people. I do not love people, I am a serious introvert, who gets overwhelmed by too much interaction with people, but people and their behaviour fascinate me.

One of my main questions around human behaviour and interaction is this: what is it that ‘breaks’ someone? What is it that changes their personalities and turn them into monsters? And why does it only happen to some people?

Look at serious criminals. The psychopaths. The really MEAN ones. Why are they that way? What happened to them in life that turned them into the monster they’ve become?

“They’ve been abused as a child” – I hear you say. Yes, a lot of them will say that is what happened. But there are a lot more children that were abused as children, who did not turn into psychopaths. They might also become abusers who hurt their children (which is bad enough, don’t get me wrong), and they might not. But they do not turn into people who go out, find other people and kill them horribly, get satisfaction out of the deed, and don’t stop until they are stopped by getting caught.

Or, they develop multiple personalities, so they can get away from their realities. And some of those personalities can also commit horrible crimes.

You even get children from the same family, that grew up in the same abusive situation, who turn out completely differently. The one becomes a lawyer/cop/doctor, the other becomes a psychopath.

Are some people born evil? Or are they born with a much more fragile mind than most others?

I know that there is no clear answer to this yet. Many theories maybe, but no definite answers. (This piece by Paul J Zak gives a good explanation of why people could be/become evil ) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moral-molecule/201109/why-some-people-are-evil

But, I wonder if that will ever be  really clear to us? Somehow I don’t think so…

You might ask me why I’m being so dark and serious on a Friday afternoon. I don’t know. I do know it is a question that I’ve been pondering for years, but it might be that I am asking this because of the horrific murders being committed on South African farms lately. It hurts to hear the facts of those murders, and one cannot hear them and not wonder – WHY?

Until next time!