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Mental well-being.

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False Bay, Western Cape, South Africa.

Be positive. Be positive. Be positive…

Easier said than done. I can pretend I am positive all the time, while I’m screaming inside. What good will that do? Maybe if I pretend hard enough, I’ll actually become positive? Maybe. I doubt it though.

I’ve written before about how I do all these little ‘things’ to stay busy and positive and happy. It’s not working for me anymore.

Let me tell you why. (You might not be interested to know about my woes, but I’ll tell you anyway…)

I AM happy about the fact that we (my loved ones) are all still healthy, have food to eat, and roofs over our heads. I AM happy that we are comparatively free to live our lives and go about our business (the ones here in South Africa anyway. The loved ones in Ireland and Canada, are much less free.)

But the fact that all of us cannot see the end of these limitations that have been placed on us regarding travel, the fact that a lot of things related to Covid and vaccines are still unclear and uncertain, is really, REALLY getting my goat now!!! And I know I’m not the only one. And it is also not only for the sake of traveling. Thousands, maybe millions of people have loved ones living in other countries – children, grandchildren, uncles, aunts, brothers, sisters – and we are forbidden to see them. What does that do to family relationships? How does that impact on people’s mental health? I can tell you – very negatively.

My shoulders and neck are sore and stiff all the time. I don’t sleep well. I’m irritated. I have difficulty breathing properly. And I cry at the drop of a hat.

Maybe that’s just me. Maybe I’m just a sugar lump, that melts at the first few drops of rain. But I’m thinking there must be others out there who feel the same way.

Monday, Monday…

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This Monday sure started with a bang!

Well, maybe not quite as dramatic as that… But it was definitely a different kind of Monday to the ones I normally have.

I have been busy from 10 am until after 6 pm today, which is quite something! Then, of course, I still had to take Miss Daisy for a walk. I had a glass of wine outside, and now I am making myself some supper. Chill time!

As much as I enjoy a day of doing nothing, I love having a day like today. Busy enough, but not so that I feel run off my feet.

I wasn’t looking forward to this week, but it started off on a positive note, so I am hoping it will continue in that vein. If it does, I’ll be a happy camper. 🙂

I recently talked to somebody about the importance of being able to control your thoughts when you are feeling negative or alone. It is not an easy thing to do. I still battle with it, but I haven’t had a lot of practice yet. I used to mope. Feel sorry for myself. I only recently started believing that only I could make myself feel better. I do now believe that the power of positive thinking is priceless. I think that once you feel your thoughts going into a dark place, you have to try your best to rein them in, and coax it in a positive direction.

It needs discipline and perseverance. But once you consistently keep at it, I think it becomes easier, and eventually it happens automatically.

I sometimes have to pull myself up by my bootstrings, but it works. The times that it doesn’t work, I get active. Or I get into my car and drive somewhere, preferably where there are people.

Today, fortunately, I didn’t need that. It was a positive day, even if it was a Monday!!

I know some of you are done with Monday, some of you are right in the middle or your day. Mine is ending now, but I thought I’ll gift you this ‘ancient’ little song, to ease your Monday into a pleasant one.

You’re welcome! 🙂


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Atomic…. A modern nuclear bomb explosion in the desert.

I am battling with a few issues in my life at the moment.

Of course, this worldwide pandemic nonsense is not making any of these issues easier to digest, in fact, it has a direct negative impact on my ability to process it. I am not going to spell those ‘issues’ out for you, because that is not the important point here.

The point is, I am finding things difficult at the moment. I have to figure out how to cope with it, how to sort it out, without going completely bonkers.

Also, I am making it sound a whole lot worse than it is, which is not my intention. I do go about my day normally, but I am conscious all the time of something niggling at the back of my head, in my heart, my being.

I know for a fact that once the powers that be decide that the only way forward for the world is to carry on as normal, half of this weight will drop off of me.

I know a lot of people do not feel the same way, which is fine, but I also know a heck of a lot of people actually do. You feel your way, I feel my way – we are individual human beings, each with our own mindset, and that is maybe part of the big problem…

Here is the funny thing – the positive cases go up, the ‘leaders’ close things down – the numbers go down. Then they open up again, the numbers go up again. They close down again. And on and on. So, are they going to do this open/close game into infinity?

And while they are doing this, our lives are in limbo. Our businesses go under. Our family ties suffer. Our minds are going into places it has never been before. The rebel in us comes out.

I foresee trouble in the future, because there will come a day that the people on the ground decide enough is enough – we want our lives back. This cannot go on indefinitely. It has gone on too long as it is. And like I said, you are more than welcome to disagree with me.