Today I am going to raise a few eyebrows, I’m sure. I am going to stray from my normal, boring, run-of-the-mill ‘what I did today’ style of blogging. I’m going to get on my soapbox about something I feel very strongly about…DISCIPLINE, OR RATHER, THE LACK THEREOF.
When I was growing up, it was the norm that children were to be seen, not heard. While I do not totally agree with this concept, what it did teach us, was never to interrupt a conversation (ie. manners). It taught us that we had very little say in everyday decisions, like what mom was going to make for dinner, whether we stayed home when mom went shopping, or went along, how to behave while shopping, and VERY important – how to talk to adults when we did get the chance, and talk to people in general.
I wonder when it happened, and why, that parents relinquished their status as the grown-ups, the ones with the ‘power’ if you will. And I don’t mean POWER in a negative way, but I mean that the adults have the final say, for goodness’ sake! Why do children have the power to make decisions in families these days? Why do parents constantly give in to their whims, and their tantrums? They are the CHILDREN!!!! You, are the ADULTS, the mother or father, the leaders of the family. You are actually the ones to say, NO, you cannot have a toy and candy today, we are here to buy groceries. And you can roll around on the ground and shout all you want, YOU STILL WON’T GET IT!!! NO, you cannot stay up until 11 pm to watch TV, you’ve got school tomorrow. YES, you are allowed to go and visit your friend today, but be back at home by 10 pm. YES, you can go swimming, but take your sister along.Etc.
I get the impression that parents are actually scared of their children. And make no mistake – the kids know it! WHY? Have you noticed their size? What can they actually do to you? Scream and shout? Are you afraid that they might be upset with you if you take a stand?
Can I tell you a secret? If you give in to your children all the time, if you allow them to do what they want, if you allow them to rule the roost with very few or no rules, chances are you’ve got brats for children, that nobody enjoys being around. Chances are also good that they will be no-good lay-abouts when they grow up, or worse – criminals.
Please understand – I am not saying that kids have no say in anything. Love and discipline actually go hand-in-hand. Children need love, and lots of it, but you as parents are supposed to be the ones that make rules, so children know what their boundaries are. You are the ones that have the right to make the majority of the decisions, you are after all the ones with the experience, the ones that work for your money, so you can look after your family. Act like you are the adults, and teach your children to respect you, and other people, and other people’s property.
A lack of respect for other people’s rights and property is a big problem today, that is why bullying is such a huge issue in schools these days, theft is for so many children a way of life, and education is going down the drain because children ignore teachers, and intimidate them to the point where the schools might as well close down for all the ‘education’ that happens there!
Guess what? It all starts at home. Bottom line. Don’t you dare blame the teachers, or the system. Point your finger at yourself, and lack of discipline at home.<!–mo