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A sense of Self…

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My little munchkin.

The second Saturday of the year has come and gone already!

Don’t tell me time doesn’t fly. The last time I held my little granddaughter, she was 4 months old. In the blink of an eye, she is 9 days away from her 2nd birthday, and not a baby anymore. Where did my little baby girl go? Where did the time go? I have no way of knowing when I’ll see her again, and I’ll be a stranger to her, a face she sees from time to time on a cell phone screen… I hate the huge panic over this virus, and I hate the distance between myself and my children and my granddaughter.

One thing I have learnt over the past year -family is important , very much so. Nothing can replace the love of a mother or grandmother, father or grandfather. Uncles, aunts, nieces and nephews – important pieces of the puzzle of life.

I grew up with family (my father was one of 7 children!), then, through circumstances, grew apart from them, and lost contact for many years. I have recently started communicating with a few of my cousins, uncles and aunts, and I KNOW I missed out big time. And I do blame my parents for the loss to a certain extent.

Not everybody has wonderful relationships with their families, I know. But believe me, a life with irritating family members, is just soooooo much better than a life without family.


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Selfishness is being concerned excessively or exclusively, for oneself or one’s own advantage, pleasure, or welfare, regardless of others.” ~ Wikipedia

An entitlement mentality is a state of mind in which an individual comes to believe that privileges are instead rights, and that they are to be expected as a matter of course.” ~ Conservapedia

Two of my pet hates.

Mostly, they go hand in hand. And I believe a huge portion of the youth on this planet are to a big extent guilty of both, but especially the latter. Please note that I did not say ‘all of them’! I know gorgeous young people who were raised to be thankful, kind and empathetic. But unfortunately I know or have seen enough to know that a whole lot of our young ones believe they are ‘owed’ – they must get a car when they turn sixteen (in our country 18 or 21), they must wear only brand name clothes, they must have the latest in electronics and cell phones, etc. Why? Says who? Where do they think the money comes from? What have they done that makes them so special that they think it is their right? Nobody dies without those things, so you don’t have to have them.

You must have food, a roof over your head, clothes to wear and if you are very lucky, two loving parent to raise you and teach you the important values in life. The rest, if parents can afford it, are privileges, not rights!

I must also add, that although I believe it is a modern problem, I know there are some people from the older generations also guilty of selfishness, but I find there is less to no entitlement with them. They knew from a young age that you cannot get everything you want, when you want it. They learnt the hard way that you have to actually work for what you want.

So – where and why did this new notion creep in? I’ve got my ideas about it, but since I know this post is already going to land me in hot water, I will not go there today…

The germ of this post started a while ago when I watched ‘The Earthing Movie’. In it some youngsters were asked if they know what earthing is all about. They were horrified to realize that it means walking barefoot, because they have 100’s of pairs of shoes. Another one said that his shoes define him. WHAT??? I was shocked. Why would any one person need that many shoes? Why would parents allow them to buy that many? Why would someone think that they are defined (judged) by their shoes and not who they are as a person? I know what you are going to say – freedom of choice, free market, capitalism, what does it have to do with me, etc. But please, THINK about it. Not only is it the wrong value system, this crazy consumerism is also killing this earth we are living on.

This is HUGE, my friends, this is huge. And it is a real problem…

Until next time, think about it, please. 🙂