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Midweek thoughts.

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A few random thoughts, which you may or may not agree with…

With all the information available on the internet these days, don’t you think things have actually become more complicated, instead of simpler? For instance – how do you choose what to eat, and what not to eat? That is, if you are interested in living a healthy life. Because the one article/post will tell you to stay away from any dairy products, the other will say you have to include it in your diet. One blog will say follow a keto diet, the other will say do that only if you want to die young. Stay away from charred meat or toast, it causes cancer. Eat lots of eggs if you want to die of a heart attack, avoid eggs if you want to live a long life. Drink coffee, don’t drink coffee. Eat bread, don’t touch bread. So, okay, what do I eat?

The same with child rearing. We, and our mothers and grandmothers (and all previous generations!), raised our children with lots of love, common sense, intuition, advice from our elders, and trial and error. I think we turned out just fine, as did our children. I mean, our generation are the Bill Gates, the Meryl Streeps, the Angela Merkels, the Freddy Mercury’s, the Richard Bransons of the world. Our children are well on their way to make names for themselves, and a lot have already done so, so I think our generation did more than okay in the child rearing stakes. Nowadays, babies are raised strictly according to Instagram and blog posts written by so called experts (mostly other moms), and what do we (the previous generation) know about raising babies. We are listened to with half an ear and quickly told what the ‘right’ thing is to do and how. Even if every single post have different ideas and advice, sometimes contradictory – Sleep train your baby! Never sleep train your baby! Let your baby sleep in your bed, don’t fall into the pit of co-sleeping! No trace anymore of following your gut, your intuition or your own mind – it is not to be trusted.

It is the same with just about everything else. Do this, don’t do it. Don’t do it like that, do it like this.

Is there anybody out there who still decide for themselves what and how they are going to do something? And think about things – social media even wants to force everybody to think the same! Why have we got minds of our own if we are not allowed to use it?

So here’s how I’m doing things. I eat what I like, when I like it, but always in moderation. I love bread and real butter, I will not stop eating it. I love cheese – plain, full fat cheddar or gouda, camembert and brie, and I always have some in my fridge. I’m not a vegetarian, and I’ll never be one, but I do like to do meatless meals often. I like having a glass of wine or two, sometimes a G & T, even an ice cold beer on a very hot day. I do not like Mexican food, and I refuse to eat worms, snakes, scorpions, horse, cat and dog meat.

I’ve cut down on social media and especially the news, drastically, because I won’t be brainwashed or forced into what I should think about things happening in the world, I’ll make up my own mind about it. (I do enjoy needling people on FB sometimes, but I refrain from doing that now, since I only glance through my feed these day.) I will not let others prescribe to me how I should feel about the overpopulation of the world, raising cattle or sheep, Trump/Biden, raising ‘genderless’ children, abortion, the Kardashians or the Cambridges/Sussexes.

I will not force my opinions on other people, and I expect the same respect from them.

Does that sound fair? I think so.

Have a wonderful Wednesday people!!! 🙂


About zelmare

Hallo to you from the southern most part of the African continent - South Africa!! To put my life in a nutshell : I raised 3 absolutely fabulous kids (I'm sure you will hear a lot about them, since I am a very proud mama), I became a doting grandmother two years ago and recently bought a house in the Western Cape, and in doing so, realized a dream I've had for many, many years. I love traveling, which I don't do often enough. I love living a simple life - cooking, gardening, knitting and of course, blogging. There is still a lot I want to do and see in my lifetime, but time will tell how much of that I can actually accomplish. I am looking forward to meeting a lot of lovely new friends and interesting people here on WordPress! :)

5 responses »

  1. Lots of white noise. Sometimes confusing. Sometimes enlightening. But lots of noise!

  2. There is certainly a lot of information and it can be hard to sort through.


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